Are the people in your life good for you?

Are the people you associate with on a daily basis good for you and your mental health?

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I remember when I first became a certified mental health life coach, I went to work told and celebrated my accomplishment with my restaurant coworkers. My manager Alex me "what is the first piece of advice that I would give someone as a certified mental health life coach?" I stated, " always put yourself first." He then stated, " what if the people in your life get upset with you when you put yourself first?" Honestly, I was baffled! I asked myself "would someone really be upset with YOU for putting YOURSELF FIRST?" I then simply replied "then if they get upset with you for putting yourself first, then you may want to re-evaluate their role in your life."

If a person truly loves, values and respects you, then they will respect your boundaries. You must be alert and keep your opens to how you are being treated by those around you. It is your life to live! You don't have to associate with anyone who isn't added value to your life. I've notice that people have a hard time setting boundaries with family or close friends. I never understood why. I do understand that you love your family and friends and you do not want to disappoint the by telling them "No" or going against them. I agree it is just easier to just go with the flow of the group despite you being uncomfortable with whatever is taking place. However, I must be honest with you, you will feel even worse inside for going with the flow instead of just doing what's right.... Which is standing up for yourself and protecting your boundaries. It will begin to be a mental battle with yourself each time you should have stood on your boundaries, but you didn't. It will lead to resentment towards others and maybe mental destruction.

Our mental and physical health is all that we have. Once it's gone. IT"S GONE! Do not rush the process by not taking care of yourself. Always remember that Coach Tashe' said "then if they get upset with you for putting yourself first, then you may want to re-evaluate their role in your life."